Love is tricky, apparently literally.
# Friday 3rd September, 2010 - 10:54pm with 0 comments
I realise I haven’t blogged in a while, which is amusing since for a while I was able to actually keep up with the idea of topics and being clever more often than not– yet however I find myself of late without issues or things to blog about– when I do think about things I’d like to share or write about, by the time I get to my laptop to write them the inspiration is gone and I realise the blog would have been nothing but diatribe anyway, but sometimes, just sometimes… something piques me enough.
Such as this article from iVillage– at first glance, completely harmless… no wait, at first glance you can already tell it’s going to be complete bullshit– yes, how to make ANYONE fall in love with you, because love is such an arbitrary thing that it can be bought with tricks and cleverness, I promise. It’s not something that develops on its own through years of knowing each other, or even just a spark of a common interest that leads to a bond that spans beyond just flat out lust. Let us all hope harder for the love from Twilight that comes with weird nuances of things you never even think about until you’re standing outside of that whirlwind of bullshit text– the fact that it’s conditional love is always fun, as well as the fact that you must have a secondary option hanging on there in case your first love falls apart. Or even, let’s go for some Fairy Tale type love, the kind that we dreamed about when we were little kids because Disney managed to make the horrible Fairy Tale stories seem palatable, even though if you read them they turn into something far more wicked and sinister.
Gone are the days of wanting real love, we just want it all, and we want it now. As interesting as that is, love isn’t so easily tricked into being by these so called ‘pointers’. You can’t just manifest feelings because someone starts being a little less available. Yes indeed, because everyone in the world wants something they can’t have, and while that’s true in some aspects, it doesn’t equate to love, nor does the suggestion of not doing nice things for them, and letting them do nice things for you instead ring as true love to me.
What kind of society do we live in that this is the kind of information being portrayed as self-help. Love doesn’t come because you trick it into thinking you’re unavailable, or because you ooze sexual promiscuity– no, love exists in spite of those things. It’s an entity in and of itself and I wonder just how many women have fallen for this kind of thing as a kind of last resort. You don’t need to do anything to make a man love you other than be yourself, and love yourself. You do not have to be sexy in appearance, or clad with make-up and that whole “oh, other boys are sending me flowers, how thoughtful.” backhanded crap– all you have to do is find the guy that is right for you. Yes, sometimes you are going to fall in love with someone you can’t have, but that’s what love is… it’s falling, whether good or bad, it’s realising that sometimes you don’t get what you want, but you will find what you need if you stop trying to force it.
Articles like this do nothing to reveal who you truly are, and honestly, they only seem to mask love further– how can a man truly feel anything for you if all you’re doing is smoke and mirrors? I wouldn’t love someone who tried to deceive me, not by a long shot.
I’m just saying.