Songs: Heartbreak and Loss

Song posts are probably something I’ll do a lot of, mostly because they kind of work for me– I have this insane love for music and it tends to translate well into something I can be passionate about on a blog– especially when it comes to the type of songs you listen to when you’re feeling utterly down on yourself because of heartbreak or some other type of emotional upheaval. I find most of the songs I’m about to list apply directly to the feeling of loss that comes with getting your heartbroken, hence the title. Maybe these’ll help you get all those tears out you’ve been holding in for a while and need to let go of, or maybe you’ll just find a pretty song you dig and you can go from there. We’ll find out. I’ll keep it to 10 songs ((it’s kind of funny because a lot of the songs I’d use here were featured in an earlier post, so I’m trying to remember other ones.)) this time so I don’t flood people.

How by Lisa Loeb

This song was briefly featured in Buffy the Vampire Slayer, somewhat in the background when Xander and Willow were getting ready for Homecoming ((or at least picking out what they’d wear)), and even before I saw that episode I was crazy, head over heels in love with this song. Something about it speaks to me, especially since I found it during a time in my life where I could have been considered completely broken.

I didn’t come this far for you to make this hard for me.
And now you want to ask me “how”?

It’s like – how does your heart beat, and why do you breathe?
How does your heart beat, and why do you breathe?

Loss– that’s all I can garner from it. Being lost, and broken, and somehow managing to put yourself all back together and get over it, and suddenly there they are again, and it’s all breaking down again. Pure pain, and I’ve been there. How by Lisa Loeb lyrics.

Star-Stealing Girl by Yasunori Mitsuda

This one has no lyrics, but it’s kind of interesting because it doesn’t need them– it remains, to this day, one of the songs that can break me down out of nowhere just by listening to it. My friend Khy and I share a mutual love for this song and its beauty, and the fact that Yasunori Mitsuda is a brilliant composer has a lot to do with that. If you find the song and listen to it, it makes you feel that kind of dreamy fugue state that most people want to find when they’re feeling loss or heartbroken. That’s how I always end up– it’s my song for death and my song for heartache, for good reason.

Missing by Evanescence

I realise putting Evanescence on this list is pretty much an instant groan from everyone, but honestly this song is one of the best break-up songs I’ve ever heard. It makes you feel kind of regretful, and you can sit back and think about everything that’s happened– it puts me in a mood to just be sad and cry, because sometimes, they just don’t miss you.

You won’t cry for my absence I know
You forgot me long ago
Am I that unimportant?
Am I so insignificant?
Isn’t something missing?
Isn’t someone missing me?

I realise it may not be the intended meaning of the song, or even the meaning most people get out of it, but if you’ve ever been in love with someone and had them get over you almost instantly, you kind of feel that way… like everything you do is inconsequential. Missing by Evanescence lyrics.

Carnival of Rust by Poets of the Fall

It wouldn’t be a post about love, loss, and heartbreak if I didn’t include this song by Poets of the Fall– the band is one of the most amazing I’ve found in years, and they seem to lack the recognition they truly deserve, at least within the United States. This song in particular is one that’s been with me for years through a lot of situations, so I kind of relate to it in that way.

Come feed the rain
‘Cause I’m thirsty for your love
Dancing underneath the skies of lust
Yeah, feed the rain
‘Cause without your love my life
Ain’t nothing but this carnival of rust

The music itself is brilliant, and with the lyrics added in, speaking to me of a deep loss and love– it can also speak of better things if you’re in a better mood– but it’s one of my go to songs for when I’m feeling the need to feel. Carnival of Rust by Poets of the Fall lyrics.

Recessional by Vienna Teng

I don’t know that many people will really get this one, especially if you’ve never heard it, as it’s one of those songs that you have to listen to deeply really to get. I honestly feel so utterly hopeful and hopeless at the same time when I listen to this song, and it has this way of near breaking my heart just listening to the piano melody alone.

Who are you, the stranger in the shell of a lover
Dark curtains drawn by the passage of time?
Oh words like rain, how sweet the sound

It’s another one of those songs that can have a dual-meaning depending on how I’m feeling, but I’ve found myself listening to this song in some of the worst times in my life– and when she hits that climax where she’s just kind of singing with the music in the background, and it’s not even really words, I lose it. I love this song. Recessional by Vienna Teng lyrics.

A Distance There Is by Theatre of Tragedy

I have an insane love for the voice of Liv Kristine, as some of you might know ((my having purchased and having that be the name of my Rogue for forever likely illustrates that beautifully)), and this song doesn’t really do much to dissuade that thought. It’s beautiful and heart-wrenching in its melody– the lyrics might not appeal to most as something they’d find in tune with love and loss, but, it’s amazing.

My heart, my heart, my heart
My heart is of frailthy, my pale skin is hued damask.
When thou thy tears hast hidden,
“Come back!”, thou sayest â??
There I soon am to be â??
But how am I to run when my bones, my heart
Thou hast me bereaft â??

This song reminds me of some really quite effed up times in my life– I can’t really describe them in totality, but I will always, ALWAYS equate this song to my best friend, no matter what I do. We commiserate over the beauty of this song, and it’s one of the first songs he ever introduced me to. Music ties me to people more deeply than it does for most, I’m sure, but this song just draws emotion from me I can’t explain fully in words. A Distance There Is… by Theatre of Tragedy lyrics.

Damaged by Plumb

I remember I first heard this song and fell in love with it– I guess I was always kind of a romantic at heart, but I had this feeling that it would escape me for as long as I was breathing. I suppose that’s what this song does for me, it lets me give into that kind of self-deprecation that I need sometimes just so it doesn’t fester inside of me and come out as something much, much worse.

Dreaming comes so easily
‘Cause it’s all that I’ve known
True love is a fairy tale
I’m damaged, so how would I know

I’m scared and I’m alone
I’m ashamed
And I need for you to know

If it isn’t apparent, nothing about this song really screams good feelings– as far as I’m concerned, it’s meant to break you down and make you feel loss… I honestly believe sometimes we need that, we need to give into it. No one can be strong all the time, and crying is healthy. Damaged by Plumb lyrics.

Eclipsed by Evans Blue

Let me preface this by saying I just put the song on so I could write about it ((as I have been doing for all these songs, by the way, it helps me vociferate more properly what I’m feeling about them)), and I literally took one of those lengthy breaths, and I think my heart might have skidded a beat. It’s another song that I equate to my best friend and all that we were, and are, so it always tends to get to me. Another band that feels they don’t get near enough recognition for their musical talent, as they actually have talent– any band that evokes such emotion from me is good in my books.

I love your analogies
We’re both crazy in our own little ways
We talk about the future, and our past lives
I know I loved you then, I know I’d love you now
I know I’ll love you then, I know I love you now

It seems like I’ve known you for so long

There isn’t a lot to be said that is wrong with this song– it both breaks me down and builds me up, thoroughly, depending on my mood. Either way, it digs deep into my heart and gives me something, and that’s something needed for songs that you’re looking for to literally break you down. Eclipsed by Evans Blue lyrics.

Pieces by Red

Though the song is kind of a mix of emotional love and emotional loss, I tend to take it as more loss when I need it to be– yes, the song is originally about God as the band Red is very much Christian, but I tend to go through music as an objective observer, and therefore I take it as I want to, nor do I fault them for their views. I’m cool like that.

I’m here again
A thousand miles away from you
A broken mess, just scattered pieces of who I am
I tried so hard
Thought I could do this on my own
I’ve lost so much along the way

It’s how it tends to happen, you’re away from someone and a part of you is missing– that being said the song does go onto talk about how coming back to that person puts you back together… but I tend to see it as you can feel that way about someone and they don’t feel the same way. They can make you whole, but they choose not to because the feelings just aren’t there… perfect for a break-up, imo. Pieces by Red lyrics.

Through Glass by Stone Sour

Again, another song that ended up being related to my best friend, but mostly because I told him it reminded me of him when he was head over heels in love with some girl who honestly wasn’t worth his time ((I say this honestly, because even though I was in love with him at the time, and still love him, that girl was destroying him and I swear I will punch some people over him some day)), but that being said, it reminds me a bit of me with him in the mirrored image. Being on the outside, looking at something you can’t have and realising that everything is going to just keep going on, day by day, even though a part of you isn’t even there.

‘Cause I’m looking at you through the glass
Don’t know how much time has passed
All I know is that it feels like forever
But no one ever tells you that
Forever feels like home
Sitting all alone inside your head

It’s another song that can have dual-meaning depending on how you’re feeling that day, but honestly, it tends to make me smile a little bit but feel completely torn in the chest area, because… I will always remember it from that time when I realised I would love that boy until the day I die, regardless of if feelings were ever returned, and I stand by that, and this song reminds me that he’s worth it– I just wish he knew it sometimes– and it’s good for that reason if no other. Through Glass by Stone Sour lyrics.


I realise a lot of the songs won’t be up to most people’s tastes, and we might end up being in one of those issues where everyone looks at me like I’m crazy over all this, but I tend to look deeper through the melody and lyrics of music and let them hit me as they will. I tried not to reuse any bands or themes in this, to give us a variety, and I think it turned out relatively well– most of these bands have other songs that would fit just as well here, but I chose whichever one fit best for me at the moment.

What about you crazy kids? Like the songs, or have any you’d suggest for your own?

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